One thing I am deeply aware of right now is that no one wants to be taught unless they are specifically seeking a teaching. If they are going to someone for advice, counseling, teaching, etc., then they of course are reaching out for the teaching. Otherwise, everyone just wants to be accepted for who they are. In the moment. No matter how they show up. This has been constantly in my face since the spring.
I admit, I have been the one that is quick to throw the suggestions and teachings out there to others. Dare I say it is my nature because I love to teach. That's not what people want. You see, I have experienced ( and am currently experiencing) both sides of this coin, with the second side being the most dominant right now. What I can tell you is that being taught at fucking sucks.
In my experiences, I just want to be "be'd" with. Yep...I just created my own word. I am a very open person.
I am not afraid to share what is going on with me. It is very obvious that others take that as an open invitation to school me on how I should show up. W.....T....F....Of course the little girl in me says...oh gee...I guess I'm not good enough for them. That is an old pattern that is being repatterned with in me. One person actually came out last week and said I wasn't good enough. WOW. Just WOW. I get that it's where they are coming from, that they aren't accepting of themselves, yada, yada. It still takes me aback. More like I retreat from contact with them. I mean, how dare they not meet me where I would like to be met?
Well guess what?!?! No one can. Only we can give ourselves the love and support that we need, want and desire. Only we can love ourselves so deeply that it doesn't matter what anyone says or does. With all of that lovin', I am also acutely aware of the boundaries that need to be set. Boundaries need to be set because the love you have for yourself is so immense that the thought of someone stepping over them is appalling. Finding our voices for something when we feel like we are being overshadowed. It's one of the biggest cruxes of the life of the Empath isn't it?!?!?! Setting the boundaries. We learned somewhere in our lives to put others needs and feelings ahead of our own so that we could feel apart and appreciated.
We allowed our boundaries to be stomped on or even erased so that we could get others to accept us and love us. We make sure every one else feels OK and safe, so that we can feel OK and safe. Yet, when it comes down to it, we don't feel safe and alright. It's quite the opposite. We recognized a long time ago that we get ostracized for sharing our feelings and or expressing our true essence, so we make sure that everyone else feels safe and their needs are met.
Pish posh. It's time we take a stand for ourselves. It's time we tell ourselves that we are safe to feel anything that we are feeling and it is safe to express ourselves, in our entirety. If you can, recognize the signs when you are taking the back burner and not upholding your boundaries. (If you have recognized your boundaries...or maybe that's where you can start, recognizing your boundaries) Remember dear empaths, it's not to beat yourself up for any of this....you are only doing the best you can...
Which, coming back full circle to those that feel they want to teach us when we haven't asked, is all any of us are doing--the best we can in every moment. Please remember this....and remember, I am sharing with you all of this because of my own experiences. I hardly do the unwanted teaching any longer. If I do, I catch myself because I know what it feels like to be on the receiving end. I share this today for my eyes and I share in hopes that it will help any of you also. Keep on keepin' on and keep being amazing!
Until next time...
So....have you been feeling the crazy energies that have been going on lately?!?!?! The full moon on October 15th definitely had some strong mojo with it. ;-) With all of the powerful transformational energies happening, it further perpetuates my (all of us really, should we choose to accept it) growth. Growth sometimes brings more questions than answers. It seems that when I get an answer, I have a ton more questions that arise. Ack!
In the midst of all this shift/growth, I have three main questions that I am asking myself. Maybe you can ask yourself these questions (or similar ones) also. Or, maybe you are already asking yourself these questions and more!
The first question is, "How can I/you/we shift the old programs and patterns that are arising now?" Of course acknowledging the programs and patterns is a part of this equation. If you aren't recognizing or are unaware of programs or patterns that are creating stagnation in the flow of your energy and life, then maybe your question could be, "ARE there any old programs and patterns that I can shift right now?"
I recommend tapping into your intuition and commune with your Higher Self on this one. When you get your answers, there are many, many wonderful people of this world that can support your process if that is in fact what you require...which brings me to question number two.
The second question is, "Do I/you/we need support outside of myself for the repatterning and release of old patterns?" Let's face it, we aren't alone. As a matter of fact if we are One, how could we possibly be alone? A sub question (you didn't think I was really going to leave it at just three questions did you?!?!? ;-) ) is, "Do I usually reach out to others in a desperation way, or do I use it as an enhancement to my intuition and personal work?"
When we listen to our intuition on this question (and subquestion), then we will know whether to go get support from others or if we already have the tools we need. Remember, the support doesn't necessarily have to be in human form. There are plenty of Angels and other Masterful Souls that are more than willing to help support your growth. I recommend doing the opposite of what your go-to usually is. We can use them as a crutch at times, if our insecurities arise.
The third question is, "With the old patterns/programs, are you trying to have it all figured out as soon as you recognize that you have them?" Or "Have you recognized them for a while, but still haven't had clear direction on how to shift them, so you are just plain tired of them and are trying to figure and release the patterns/programs out as soon as you can?" I get it. I really do! You aren't alone. You may be saying, "enough already!" We can especially say that to ourselves when it is so fucking uncomfortable to be in our own skin. Even our own skin feels like it's suffocating us at times. When we are in physical discomfort it may seem to take us over the edge too!
My recommendation here is one of Self Love. Take the deep breaths, give yourself a big hug and compassion like you would a child. You don't have to have it all figured out, you are doing the best you can in every moment! That's what we all are ever doing--the best we can in every moment. (This can go with all of the questions)
I feel it's healthy to question ourselves in this way. Not questioning our intuition...but questioning the old unconscious patterns and programs. Remember, we don't always get the answers right away. I know, I know, we want that magic pill to make it all better. Guess what? WE are our own magic pill. Yep. You read that right. We give ourselves answers, however, a lot of the times they are in baby steps. Or baby magic pills, however you would like to look at it. ;-)
You may be asking, "Why not the get whole kit and caboodle all at once to clear and repattern?" Well my friends....that is as individual an answer as there are souls in this universe. I can share with you that sometimes I do get the whole kit and caboodle, and then there are times (more often than not) that it's my old patterns and programs that keep it small...how about that conundrum?!?!?!?!
Every single one of you is absolutely amazing and I am in complete awe of you! You are so brave and courageous! (AS AM I.) ;-) You are going through so much and you are here! On this planet! WOW! I am here to remind you that you can and will step into peace and harmony again. The old patterns and programs are just one more way to give ourselves the opportunity to love, love, love!
**Remember, I am here to support you if that's what your Higher Self is telling you. You know where to find me. ;-)
Keep on keepin' on until next time....
The breath. So basic. So elemental, yet so profound and necessary. It is the basis of life. It begins with silence and ends with silence. We so often take it for granted--the breath. That it will always be there. Yet, we abandon it immediately when we get stressed out, when we get anxious. We even abandoned our breath when we get excited and joyous and feel like bouncing off of the walls. We do. Stop and ponder that one for a moment.
Ultimately we are abandoning ourselves...the universe....the Isness. We ARE the breath. We are the expression of God. There is only the breath. Yes, our universe is complex with it's multi-dimensions, etc.. However, it is also so simplistic. It gives us the simple reminders of the breath, to remind us of who we truly are, where we came from and where we are returning--Love. Yes. The breath is Love. The breath is God. It is the most wonderful thing you can do to show yourself Love--To breath. So when we aren't taking those deep breaths, at the very least being present with our breath, then it's an opportunity for us to wake up in the part of our consciousness that forgets to be here...now...with our breath.
In some ways, I am deeply aware of events and experiences in our life that can give us so much insight to the bigger picture of the universe, current stasis of this planet, etc. I will give you an example of this. Earlier this week, my husband fell off of the roof of our house. The landing knocked the breath out of him, and broke 3 of his ribs, with internal bruising. He is now having a hard time breathing with the pain. When I was walking him from the car into the house from taking him to the hospital (definitely needed in this case), I kept having to remind him to take the deep breaths. He kept going to the shallow breathing from the pain.
He stated, in our slow walk, "It really feels better when I take the deep breaths." Yahoo! I didn't have to prompt him to recognize how much the deep breath is necessary, no matter how much it hurt. Well sheesh, even the amazing RN gave him a breathy thingy (incentive spirometer) to keep his lungs working with the deep breath so his lungs don't fill with fluid. The alopathic medical field recognizes the importance of breath, even if it is for a different reason. And...Well, Goly-Gee! Even our body says, "Please love me by breathing the deep breaths!"
It was such a reminder for me. I have been talking for years about connecting with the breath. Yet again, I was reminded on a deeper level about the amazing breath. There are profound moments in every moment if we are present with them. The only time we have is now. The only breath we have is now. The only Love we have is now. Why not make it a deep breath to fully connect yourself to your true essence? When you take the deep breath in the now, you are breathing for all time, dimensions....everything. when you find yourself going in the extreme of any feeling, check in with yourself. How is my breath? I betcha it will bring your present and slow everything down. Heck, it may even feel like you are seeing things for the first time. Which, you really are because you only have this now and you only have first experiences with this now. Pretty cool isn't it?!?!
So let's take a deep breath together, in this very now....feel that? That's you! :-)
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